Last night I had a visitor. She is a very dear friend of mine. After watching the A-mazing movie V for Vendetta we started chatting and catching up on how things were. Soon our conversation moved to more serious issues. One of them being bad things that we’ve done or had done to us. This friend of mine felt horrible about things she had done. Which, I commend her for. Because most people just ignore when they’ve done something bad. Anyway as we were talking I had sort of a revelation. So now you as my blog readers get to hear about it. I hope you’re ready.
Today I would like to talk about the belief that people are inherently good. I use to be a believer in this phrase but after careful examination of different situations I don’t think that it is wholly and completely true. I do believe that we are born pure and innocent but I don’t think that we stay that way. I’m sure that you as a reader can think of a time when someone has hurt you by being mean or doing something bad. I’m also sure that if you’re honest with yourself you can think of a time when you have hurt someone.
Doing bad things is something that we all will continue to do. And having bad things done to us is also something that is going to continue. The only solution that I can come up with is to learn from the bad things in life. I know this seems trivial and you’re probably thinking “Duh! We already know that!” But I’m talking about really learning from it! What do I mean by “really learning”? I mean that we need to learn from both having bad things done to us as well as when we do bad things to others and then put what we learned in to practice.
I think that today we have a problem with fixating on how someone was mean to us or did something that negatively affected us. And while taking some time to feel bad about what happened is acceptable and normal I feel like we shouldn’t fixate to the point of never accepting that it happened to you. Because if you never accept it then how can you learn the lesson out of it?
On the other hand learning from doing bad things is just as important. It’s essential that you recognize that you have hurt someone or that you have done something bad to somebody. Once you can admit that then it’s time to assess the situation. What did you do? Why did you do it? If your excuse is “They were mean to me first.” Then you haven’t learned to accept that bad things happen. Which also means that you aren’t ready to examine and learn from the bad things you have done. Annnnyway, once you have answered these questions then take those answers and next time you’re faced with a similar situation you can face it differently.
Do I think that people will change? No. Do I think that some how, someway people can be inherently good? No. I think to believe so is naïve, because bad things happen every single day. It’s unavoidable. I do, however, believe that you can become a stronger person from being hurt and that you can become a better person from learning from the bad things in life.
Well kids that’s really all I have to say on that the matter so…until next time.
~rah
"There ain’t no reason things are this way.
Its how they always been and they intend to stay.
I can't explain why we live this way, we do it everyday.
Preachers on the podium speakin’ of saints in seance,
Prophets on the sidewalk beggin’ for change,
Old ladies laughing from the fire escape, cursing my name.
I got a basket full of lemons and they all taste the same,
A window and a pigeon with a broken wing,
You can spend your whole life workin’ for something
Just to have it taken away."
-Brett Dennen
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